Are You Dwelling Too Much on the "Shoulds" in Life?

Are you dwelling too much on the "shoulds" in life? For example, "I should have done If I would have done that would not have happened. If this tragedy had not occurred, I could have become If I had made better decisions or acted in another way, then I would have had more opportunities to. Fill in the blanks. If you are like me, this is very easy to do.
What we did, we did. What happened happened! The real question we need to focus on is how I can turn this major tragedy, mistake, failure or decision into a positive. The former Prime Minister Winston Churchill stated, "Success is often nothing more than moving from one failure to the next with undiminished enthusiasm."
I love watching the television show "Dancing with the Stars." I believe one of the key reasons this show is such a success is that it shows practice dance sessions. It documents their successes along with their many failures, insecurities, and challenges. Most of the celebrities are doing something way out of their comfort zone. They don't know how they can face the pressures of performing in front of a live audience and millions of viewers. However; no matter what happened during grueling practice sessions the previous week, they fight through their fears and insecurities and perform. The audience supports and applauds their performance because they had the opportunity to view the difficult challenges the performer endured.
This season J.R. Martinez is a fan favorite to win this event. An Army veteran, J. R. was critically wounded in Iraq in 2003 at the age of 19. A bomb exploded and burned over 40 percent of his body. His handsome face and body was severely disfigured. There was a time he wished he had died. Through the support of his family, friends, helping others, listening to his own wisdom and taking action he is now living a full life. I'm sure he failed many times because we all do. Then he decided to pick himself up and move forward4A0-102 practice test.
J. R. exudes joy and possesses a beautiful energy that it affects all those around him. He could not have done that if he stayed in the place of "what should have been if he had not been severely injured and disfigured." By walking through the fire, he gained incredible wisdom and joy that is illuminating the lives of other soldiers who have been severely injured. He is a living testament that life is to be lived no matter what tragic circumstances happened to him.
J.R. could not have accomplished these amazing goals if he stayed in the place of self-pity, or if continued to question his actions. He would have never had the opportunity in 2008 to portray a real life veteran, on the ABC daytime soap "All My Children." If J.R. stayed in the place of regret, the opportunity for "Dancing with the Stars" would have never come his way. I would have not had the pleasure of watching him dance with an energy and joy as if he has the wings of an angel.
We are all human, and I believe we can ask ourselves these questions for a time. Then it's time to let it go and choose to learn the lessons. To linger on this for months and years on end is really a waste of your time and energy. To live in a place of regret will not allow your spirit to rise above the circumstances and fly.
I want my spirit to soar. I want my positive energies to be felt by others. I hope you do too, because you possess a beautiful spirit and energy that the universe needs. I'm so glad J.R. Martinez decided to move forward no matter what obstacles were in his path, I hope you do too. I want to see 117-102you soar!