Fake It 'Til You Make It - A Formula for Deep Neurological Change

I suppose almost everyone knows the ancient Greek saying, "Fake it 'til you make it". I have heard it for so long that I take I assume everyone knows it. Turns out people still occasionally tell me my CheckPoint 156-707.70 practice test mouthing it is the first time they've heard it.
What does that mean to you? I think if you want to be the most loving partner in the Universe you have only to imagine what it would take to win the title and then aggressively hold on to the trophy.
Pretending that you are the MLPU (Most Loving Partner in the Universe) becomes the task. If you have a nasty comment forming in your head, change it into what a MLPU would say instead. It may be fake, but it get's you one step closer to the Trophy.
If you are a first class jerk, you can change it! No one has to know the crap you think. You can pretend that you're not a jerk. Pretend long enough and you will actually transform into a MLPU. You become what you do and say. Behavior and attitude begin to change your thinking and neuro-pathways.
Thinking the same way long enough changes your brain's structure. Many brain functions are built in or hardwired. CheckPoint 156-708.70 practice test Some are learned, however.The learned ones are in play as we fake it 'til we make it.
Think about how uneasy you were the first time you rode a bike or got off a ski lift. Think about how much it was a part of you after doing it repeatedly.
Malcolm Gladwell, in his book, Outliers
Here's how it works. Regarding your lover, you're thinking, " You are the worst lover in the world, after all these years you can only think of yourself. You never give me the attention I want." Instead you say, " I love it when you take the time to really notice me. Keep it up. I want more of that. You can make me so happy when we are that close."
This isn't lying, avoiding, or pandering. I sincerely want you to tell the truth. It doesn't work unless its true. The deal is, there are many "truths". Which do you want to put into the relationship; the negative and hurtful truth or the affirming building truth?
Here's another one. In your mind you're thinking, "Are you really going to wear that outfit? It makes you look like a clown. You have no taste." Instead you say, " Honey, I was hoping you would wear that outfit I bought you last month. It is so cute/sexy on you and I would love to see it on you tonight."
Oh, BTW, MLPU could also mean Most Loving Parent in the Universe. I guess that only applies to those who have kids. Maybe you PHR could fake having kids 'til you make it. Oh, yeah, that's what that pet was for. In becoming the Most Loving Person in the World, practice makes perfect!!
Start looking for a place on your mantel for that trophy.